I increasingly notice a concept that promises a lot but causes pain. The concept: We can have it all! It promises we can have everything without making choices. We can have it all, and no one will suffer. Values will not be diluted. Priorities will not be altered. Relationships will be blessed. Individuals will flourish. Families will remain intact. Everyone will be happywhatever that is.
Having it all requires adjustments, but the exchanges are okay. Thus, we exchange spiritual existence for a going to church habit. We exchange family time for couple of weekly meals together. We exchange My word is my bond! for Can I legally contest that contract? We exchange it is needful for it is pushing. We exchange relationships for lifestyle. We redefine success: success is what you possess instead of who you are as a person.
What results from seeking it all? Parents try to prove love by giving instead of being. Lonely, suffering children turn to anything that offers escape from loneliness. Divorce is expected. Religious habits replace spiritual development. Few are trusted [even in families!]; motives are doubted [what are they up to?] Boats dry rot in garages. Credit cards are over extended. We live today on what we hope to earn next year. We work too hard to enjoy each other. The gap between poverty and the middle class increases. Those with much seek more in the fear of not having. The definition of rich constantly changes. Remember when rich was having a few thousand dollars?
As the transition continues, two things are striking. (1) How easy it is to become selfish is striking. The question seems to be, Am I happy? The answer seems to be, No, but I will be when I get ... (2) The confidence we can have it all without having to make choices is striking. According to todays reasoning, responsibility destroys happiness!
Choices are inescapable! We cannot have it all! One huge self-deceit of evil is, We should never have to exclude anything. Perhaps we exclude God! If so, that is sad beyond description! Following God is about unselfish choicesalways! It is unselfish choices that define Gods concept of righteousness.
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